Married June 2, 2012
It seemed like the Facebook wires were burning up covering Kate’s wedding. No, not Kate Middleton. On June 2, 2012 the Facebook feeds were busy streaming several delightful details (and photos) of the ceremony uniting Kate Trompetter to David Rogers.
Chances are, with 300 guests in attendance, mostly local vendors providing all services for the celebration, and the couple’s level of involvement in the community, many BCM readers will have already heard about Dave and Kate’s day.
Yet word-of-mouth and social networking could never capture the intimate and personalized particulars of a party that was planned as a celebration of relationships. Only the couple could provide those, and they agreed to share them with BCM.
A point of pride for both Dave and Kate was that no MC was needed for the event. “It all came together seamlessly,” explained Dave. “From the mingling, to the ceremony, to the toasts, it all just flowed.” It’s a modest statement coming from the drummer who kicked off the festivities by marching in with a drum line.
Dave described the reason for inviting Enochs High to play their cadence with him for his entrance as “a way to make our guests aware that the ceremony was starting. We didn’t want to have someone get on the microphone and say ‘please move to the chuppah so that the ceremony can begin.’ The battery was a surprise to most everyone, although Kate admits “I probably only kept it a secret from about 90% of our guests.”
After making his way in through the crowd of their family and friends, Dave joined Kate under the chuppah and the ceremony commenced with Marci D’Arpino officiating. The couple had made the decision to not have chairs for the ceremony so their guests stood (for less than 15 minutes) as the vows were read and rings were exchanged. The vows were adapted from a poem Dave’s father had written for Dave’s mother in 1972. Kate’s and Dave’s wedding rings were ones they had made themselves with the help of the Wedding Ring Experience. At the conclusion of the ceremony, Dave broke the traditional glass by stomping on it. The glass was a gift and came in a pouch that gives Kate and Dave the option to send it back to the vendor, who will turn around and make it into a mezuzah for the couple’s home.
Another unique element to Kate and Dave’s day? “We chose not to have a wedding party,” Kate explained, “but toasted our ‘inner circle’ of about 30 of our closest family and friends in an intimate moment prior to the official ceremony.”
To hear the couple give an account of their reception, or party portion of the day, gives the sense that excellent food and exceptional music were the evening’s aim. The menu was designed by Paul Tremayne of Concetta and included (but wasn’t limited to) poached salmon, ribs, ravioli, beets, and watermelon salad. Pure Love Baking provided the desserts of vegan mini cupcakes and vegan mini donuts which were served with exquisite coffee from Serrano Social Club.
While three quarters of the guests dined at “farm tables” provided by JCD Atmospheric Studios, everyone else got to pick a blanket from a basket and enjoy the meal picnic-style. “It was so amazing to walk around and see families, little kids, all gathered on blankets enjoying the food and time together,” said Kate.
Music was just as sensational as the food. Neil Buettner, who introduced the couple, was on-hand to perform the song for the first dance. Dave and Kate danced to Neil’s arrangement of the Beatles’ “Here, There, Everywhere.” Music for the evening’s festivities was performed by local band Hot Club Faux Gitane and a band out of San Francisco, Big City Revue.
Perhaps the most special musical moment of the evening, however, came when friend Jeff Bonilla unveiled his arrangement of “Stand by Me,” which he wrote in the style of the “Playing for Change” movement. Each separate musician, all friends, came in at a different moment in the song until all were performing together to produce an almost symphonic sound.
Kate and Dave admit that the feedback they have received in the weeks since their wedding has been overwhelming and humbling. Their guests had an amazing time and were touched by the inclusion of Dave’s sons, Zyan and Seth, in the ceremony. The couple also explained that though the wedding was their vision, the actual implementation of the vision was made entirely possible by Kate’s mom, Dawn Cunningham. “Everyone who was involved with this wedding got a list from my mom,” Kate shared.
When asked what thoughts came to mind as they relived their day, Kate and Dave had a few practical tips and a couple of profound insights.
Because they started early it was easy for them to stay with local and organic vendors. They were able to make welcome baskets for out of town guests with products procured entirely from Farmer’s Market.
Dave shared the thought that came to his mind frequently was that it was so important during planning to stay calm and remember that no matter how much work goes into it, nothing will ever be ‘perfect’ but it will be the couple’s perfect day.
And the thought that sprang to Kate’s mind? “It felt like everything good Dave and I had ever done in our lives came back to us at our wedding. It was beautiful and very touching.”
For more on Kate Trompetter & David Rogers wedding, pick up a copy of the latest issue of Bridal Couture Magazine.
Photography::Nine by 9 Photography & Wheeler & Williams Photography
Bride’s Fashion::Mira Bridal Couture
Dinner::Paul Tremayne, Concetta
Desserts::Pure Love Baking
Coffee::Serrano Social Club
Day of Coordinator::Nicole Smith
Event Décor and Set up::JCD Atmospheric Studios, Inc. Hair & Make up Artist::Kristin Noelle
Reception Entertainment::Hot Club Faux Gitane & Big City Revue
Additional Music::Neil Buettner
Drumline::Enochs High School Marching Band
Cinematography::El Nido Cinematography
Invitations::Julie Orona, Never Boring Designs